How To Attract A Woman
If you're looking to get women, one of the hardest things to do is seduce them. Why would I say that? Well, because it is far easier to change yourself into the type of man that attracts women rather than going out and seducing them into thinking they're attracted to you.
Seduction has a place, that is for sure. But if you want to be successful, you must know HOW to attract a woman before seducing her. If you can manage this, your work is more than half done. All there is left is not messing anything up.
When you want to attract a woman, the last thing you should be thinking about is how to impress her. Women don't want to only be impressed by men, they also want to be attracted to them. If you fail to accomplish this, even if you get a chance to chat with them, you will fail. Attraction is a law that absolutely must be obeyed when it comes to relationships.
The easiest way to be attractive to women is being confident and charismatic. Yeah, yeah. I know. It must seem redundant, but like I say in my other articles, repetition is the key to mastery and the more you hear something, the more you're likely to use it.
So, how do women decide whether a man is confident or not? Over the years I have seen and have been guilty doing things that poisoned any chance with a woman. I'm going to detail some of the "red-flags" that women look out for or are unconsciously avoiding when interacting with a man. I'm going to share with you the secrets of how to attract a woman and I hope you use them.
The first thing I would like to stress is the one thing women absolutely hate! This is, of course, a man who's all over her and touches her way too much when they first meet. Remember that you are looking to attract a woman and not maul her.
Hanging all over a woman is a mistake because it makes you look like a pervert. A woman will look at you as an insecure, needy man. The one thing you must ABSOLUTELY avoid if you want to be attractive to women .
A confident man doesn't show affection in the beginning stages of a relationship. He will stay cool and get to know a woman. After all, he projects the security that he can get any woman and will not rush into anything. He lets the woman do the touching and will read these touches like a true seduction master.
You want to make the women you meet crave your touch, not feel smothered by it. Sure, later on when you've made some good headway with a woman touching is very important. But early on, do everything you can to avoid it. You must first attract a woman before getting physical with her!
Another thing you should be aware of is how to use your passion to build attraction around women. If you are a passionate guy, this may be difficult but crucial if you don't want to repulse a woman. When used effectively, passion could be what helps attract a woman to you. This was the case with me and how I attracted my girlfriend.
Stay passionate, but only with the things you love. Never go off on the things that bother you or anger you. Fueling these negative feelings with you will make you seem bitter and a woman will see you as a complainer.
Don't speak negatively about women, especially women from your past. I have read this advice over and over only to overhear a guy talking about how evil his ex was. Do you think women want a guy who, if it doesn't work out with him, will go off to others about how ridiculous she was? NO!
This goes for a lot more in life than just women, too. Speaking poorly about a past employer will give the impression that you are difficult to please and hard to get a long with. Women know this and is something they do not want to deal with.
Something else I've seen and cannot understand since I've never been the type, is to be a people pleaser. Trying to please everyone and being accommodating to everyone's needs shows that you are insecure and are looking for validation. A confident man knows he's cool and lets others find it out on their own. He doesn't market himself like a pitch page on the Internet. Looking to please everyone will not help you attract a woman ... it will attract people who want to use you!
When it comes to women, you don't want to be a puppy dog. A confident man has way too much pride than to obey everything that is asked of him. He will do only the things that he believes he should do and has the time for.
You have to project the idea that you will never be used and are way too busy for meaningless demands.
On the other side of the coin, you don't want to be a prick. There are exceptions to every rule, so doing good things for people is not only okay, it's recommended. If you give the impression that you are selfish and inconsiderate then no secrets of attraction will help you, even if they are gold.
Also, you don't want to be an attention whore. Saying and doing things that are obviously meant to receive attention is very unattractive. I know that people compare marketing yourself to women with talking about your strengths to a prospective employer, but nothing could be further from the truth. Instead of talking about your accomplishments and talents to a woman, you will have to learn how to show her.
I know that you must have heard somewhere that in order to attract a woman you must be cocky and funny. Though not necessary, it will help you with a lot more than making a girl laugh. Unfortunately for a lot of men, they accomplish being either or and come across as either a clown or a cocky bastard.
That said, when you are socializing with women, don't be outspoken. Excessive arguing is a turn off and makes you look as though you're close minded. If you don't agree with what a woman is saying, challenge her - don't tell her she's wrong. No woman (or man for that matter) wants to be told or made to feel as though their opinions are invalid.
If you ever do find yourself in a conversation with a woman who is trying to argue, don't return argument. Challenging her with something cocky and funny or find a way to change the subject immediately. There will be plenty of time to take part in debates later if you do find yourself in a relationship with her.
You know that saying "you can talk the talk, but can you walk the walk?" It's one you should really live by. Start showing people, especially women, what you can do and not talk about it. Actions, as most of you are already aware, are far more effective than words. After all, you are looking to attract a woman and not force yourself and your bullshit onto her.
Confidence can projected way before even meeting a woman. If you are at a bar, for example, be the leader of your group and not one of the followers. Make the decisions and show all the women that are around that you are not needy. Women like a man who takes charge and find it annoying, stressful, and very unattractive when they are the ones deciding everything. Don't be that type of man.
Attraction is a lot deeper than just looking good. You have to know what women want, and what they don't want. There is a fine line between the two, and learning how to balance will work wonders for you. You want to show women that you are confident and not an ego maniac. Finding this middle ground will not only help you attract a woman, it will also help with your interactions with everyone else.
If you want to be attractive to women you must do it through confidence and security. This is not only a seduction technique, it is also very valuable in life in general. Take the secrets of attraction I've illustrated in this article and you will surely see a big increase in your chances with them.
Jesse Allen
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