Know The Body Language Secrets That Women Give

People can hide a whole lot of information about themselves, but fall vulnerable to their body language.  These body language secrets that women unconsciously use  will help you discover what she REALLY wants.

It is a known fact that human beings, along with all other animals on this earth, use body language to communicate.  Most of the time it's involuntary and impossible to suppress.  Knowing these valuable body language secrets will do wonders for you success with women.

Just imagine having a mental guide to tell you if a woman is interested in you.  Wouldn't that make approaching a woman a little easier?  I think so.  In fact, I know so.  What I'm about to share, the body language secrets that all the top courses provide, will change the way you interact with women and will give you the advantage of knowing what a woman is thinking.

One of my favorite body language secrets that a woman is "open" to me are the signs her hands reveal.  If you are chatting with a woman and her wrists and palms are faced upward and toward you, she's willing to give you a chance to prove yourself.

What this means scientifically is that she's being submissive to you.  Unconsciously she's telling you that she's available and inviting you to take her. 

Is she laughing at the funny comments you are making, or think you're making?  If you say something unfunny and she laughs, guess what?  She's into you.  A woman will laugh at anything a man says that she's attracted to.  This is effective for more than the obvious reasons.  While she's laughing at your jokes, whether they be funny or not, she is linking happy thoughts to be around you.

Say you were talking with a girl and she touches you on the arm, hands, legs, etcetera, what do you think this means?  Yup.  She likes you.  So much so that she doesn't mind being a little physical.

"Her Chest: When indulging in foreplay, a pinkish flush will color the skin of her chest, this is known as a sex flush. This occurs as a result of changes in her blood pressure and circulation, as well as her respiration and pulse rates. This is her subtle way of telling you that you could get lucky if you keep on with what you are doing. Another positive sign that you are doing it right is when her breasts start to enlarge. Women's breasts will increase by as much as 25% when they are sexually aroused." - Coco Swan from datingxlence.com

Is she leaning toward you with her shoulders pointing square toward you? She's into you!  When we want something, we tend to move towards it.  If her torso is pointing in your direction, her focus is on you.  Nice to know, eh?  Some easy body language secrets to read what women are thinking.

Check out her feet as well.  This body language secret is best used when you are with other men.  If her feet are pointing toward you, or even just one, she likes you. 

Watch her legs.  Not in a perverted, sex starved animalistic way.  Just take a quick glance and see if her legs are open.  If they are, she's opening up to you.  She's comfortable with you and her surroundings - a good sign she's interested in you and what you're saying.

"Her Mouth: When a woman starts to think sexual thoughts, she touches her mouth. Licking her lips, sucking on the straw or spoon suggestively, and sticking things in her mouth are all indicators that she could be up for it. Eating, drinking, and smoking faster are also great body language gestures indicative of erotic thoughts." - Coco Swan from datingxlence.com

Try to read her eyes.  If you catch her looking and she quickly turns away, she's watching you.  Even better, if you catch her looking and she smiles, you had better go and talk to you or you'll remain alone and pleasure yourself with porn.  Signs like these are gold and are body language secrets you've probably read before.  Question is, do you use them?

Say you're noticing a girl across the room who has made contact with you but you're still unsure whether she's interested or not.  A nice little body language secret that I have discovered is to see if she mimics you.

"Her eyelashes. Look her in the eyes for a minute. She should be blinking about 15 times per minute. Research has shown that women on the Pill blink 32% faster than those who aren’t. How does this help you? Due to the shift in her hormone levels, women on the Pill are more sexually attracted to guys with rugged features and strong wide jaws. Strive for the confident, strong and hard image." - Coco Swan from datingxlence.com

After eye contact, do something noticeable.  Take a sip from your drink or look at your watch.  If you look over and she quickly does the same, she's into you.  Mimicking is a sign of admiration.  That said, if she's mimicking you, she's admiring you.  Noticing a woman copying your moves is a body language secret not many people know or write about.  It is easy to look for and kind of funny when it happens.

Now you know the basic body language signals women give off when they're attracted and interested in a guy.  How do you know if she's not?  Easy.

If you're chatting with a woman and she rolls her eyes, get up and leave immediately.  She is embarrassed by your presence and not very impressed with what you're saying.  You don't want to waste time chasing a girl who's disgusted with you.  Use that time to learn some more things about how to talk to women!  Body language secrets go both ways:  You can read whether she wants you or if she doesn't want anything to do with you.  Keep this in mind.

Once you notice a woman cross her arms, you had better start working in overdrive because you're losing her.  When a woman, or anyone for that matter, crosses her arms, she is uncomfortable.  Either that or she's agitated or nervous.   Experiencing a signal like this should bring up a red flag to remind you that your game needs some adjusting. 

Remember when I said that leaning forward was a very good thing?  Well, it should be a given that when a woman is leaning away from you she is trying to keep her distance.  You could be coming on too strong, smell of high heavens, or just plain annoy her.  Only an experienced seduction artist could change the tide to their favor, but don't count on it. 

So there you have it.  A bunch of signs of attraction that women give off.  Now it's your responsibility to keep conscious notes whenever you are interacting with women.  You have the tools but even tools are useless if they're not used.  Even worse, when these tools are used improperly, someone will get hurt. 

Remember to keep your eyes open and try to pick up any signs a woman is sending.  It could be the difference between seducing a woman or getting slapped in the face.  The body language secrets in this article will prevent any humiliation and ease any uncertainties you may have about your chances.

Jesse Allen

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What Is Body Language?

Those days everybody talks about body language secrets - performance experts, life coaches, gossip columnists and dating gurus.

But do you know what body language is?

The dictionary gives this definition to 'body language': "The gestures, postures, and facial expressions by which a person manifests various physical, mental, or emotional states and communicates nonverbally with others."

I have been interested in body language secrets for years, and after reading a few dozens of books, all you need to know can be summarized in 4 simple points:

1. Body Language Is A Form Of Communication

Whether you realize it or not, your body sends unmistakable signals to people around you. You DO communicate VOLUMES of information about yourself with your posture, face expression and position of your arms and legs. You do it ALL THE TIME.

In other words, before you even open your mouth, the people around you have already made a certain opinion about you - and as you know, first impressions last.

Body language accounts for 55% of your communication with the people you actually talk to (and nearly 100% of your communication with the people you don't know yet). The other 45% of your interactive communication is the VOICE TONE and ACTUAL WORDS. The words themselves account for only 7% of your communication.

All in all, your body language and the tone of your voice make up a whopping 93% of your communication with other people!

This means that HOW you say it is 13 times MORE important than WHAT you say.

Most people are spending all their time thinking of WHAT to say. While they could have learned only once HOW to say it - and say nearly anything with grandiose success.

What to know how?

Read on.

2. There Is OPEN Body Language and CLOSED Body Language

The definitions are transparent: 'open' body language makes you look like an open, accepting and friendly person, and 'closed' body language makes you look reserved, distant and unwelcoming.

When you want people to be attracted to you, use open body language. When you want people to go away, use closed body language.

It's THAT simple and the best part about these body language secrets is that it only takes awareness to begin!

3. OPEN Body Language Means NO Crossing, Covering or Hiding

Open body language secrets are easy to understand: look them in the eyes, don't cross your arms or legs, don't cover your body, and don't hide your palms and eyes.

That's it!

This is not too complicated, is it?

Let me break it down into pieces for you:

- LOOK THEM IN THE EYES: maintain eye contact at all times during your conversation.

Looking people in the eyes is the most important part of the open body language secrets. It has been scientifically proven that long gazes evoke the release of the same hormones that are produced when we are in love - they will feel attracted to you and won't even know why.

- KEEP YOUR PALMS OPEN: Keep your hands on the sides of your body; don't hide your hands in your pockets and don't sit on them.

Don't fold your arms or clench your fists. Don't cover your body with your arms. Don't grab a drink or handbag with both hands. Don't touch your face, ears or neck - this shows insecurity and anxiety.

If you need to hold something in your hands, hold it with ONE hand only and keep it to the side, so your arm doesn't cover your body. If the conversation is going to be longer than a couple of replicas, put down anything you hold. Get a shoulder bag to keep your hands free at all times.

- KEEP YOUR LEGS UNCROSSED: Don't cross your legs on any level. Keep them apart.

- TURN YOUR BODY TOWARDS THEM: Turn your whole body to face them. Point your feet towards them; turn your torso face-to-face, so the angle between you and them is minimal.

- STAND TALL: You appear more confident and assured when you do.

- REMOVE BARRIERS BETWEEN YOU AND THEM: Don't put chairs, or glasses, or anything else between you and the person you are talking to. Keep it open.

- SMILE EASILY: There is a world of difference between smiling easily and smiling all the time.

Smiling all the time means you are feeling tense and trying to cover it up. Smiling easily means you feel comfortable and can open up into smile any time you want.

If you tend to smile all the time when meeting strangers, try to deliberately DON'T smile. Look them in the eyes, and keep a friendly, tall, and open posture - but DON'T SMILE. When you master that, start smiling after a minute or two in your conversation.

Start practicing these open body language secrets with shop assistants and bank tellers: they are PAID to be nice to you. Notice what a difference it has on your communication.

4. CLOSED Body Language Means Crossing, Covering or Hiding

Sometimes you don't want to attract certain people; this is what you need to do in such cases:

- Don't look them in the eyes;

- Fold your arms or hide your hands in the pockets;

- Turn your body away from them;

- Cross your legs and point your feet away from them;

- Put barriers between you and them;

- Frown, or smile all the time a strained smile.

This will make them feel uncomfortable and they will try to avoid you.

You see, body language is not complicated at all.

In any social situation, you can see how the people around you feel. Most of them will display 'closed' body language - and you know what does it mean, they feel uncomfortable and apprehensive.

Which means that if you display the 'open' body language, you will be irresistibly attractive. They won't know why but feel drawn to you. People usually describe it as, "You have something special about you", or "a presence".

If you start consciously 'open' yourself to other people, you will notice the change in your communication almost immediately. Open body language secrets make you appear more approachable and trustworthy. It will also make you feel more comfortable and relaxed in any situation.

Remember, your body language tells MORE about you than your words.

Use it to your advantage!

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Elena Solomon is a dating coach.

Her latest book "12 Simple Rules" became #1 'Love & Romance' bestseller in the leading eBook distribution service in just ONE WEEK after the release. It shows you exactly how you can use body language and other scientifically proven techniques to become more successful in dating and love.

Don't read this book if you want to keep your life just the way it is.

Dating Secrets

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Is She Interested?

Dear Ron and David,

One of the important lessons that I learned from "how to Succeed with Women" is that the guy must initiate everything with women. That is all fine and good, but are there clear ways of knowing whether or not she is truly interested PRIOR TO initiation? In other words, are there certain subtle hints that women will give if they want to be asked out, kissed, etc.?

I feel more comfortable having a real sense if she is interested before going forward with seduction, since many women often will be chummy with guys just to be nice, without having a true interest in him.

Later, Jeff from Rhode Island

Hi Jeff!

Great question!

This is why you must make an effortless habit of showing your romantic interest right away. As you probably know, most women decide in the first three minutes of meeting you whether you are lover material or simply another lowly "friend." What you may not know is that those three minutes are also the minutes during which you run simple, low-risks tests on her to find out of she is interested in you romantically. If she is then you have "pre-qualified" her, and can move forward with more confidence into asking her out, initiating, going for the first kiss, etc. If she is not interested then you have found out, you haven't taken much time, you've risked almost nothing, and can move on to someone else.

You've got to make use of those key three minutes to find out if she is open to the idea of being lovers with you. While it's not completely effortless, if you run a few simple tests during that critical period, you can find out.

These first three minutes are the best time to both find out if she is interested in you _and_ to help generate and increase whatever interest in you she does have. Let's recap a woman's first experience of you: When a woman meets you, even if she thinks you are cute, you represent a problem to her. While you are thinking about great she'd look naked, and wondering if those are her real breasts, she is thinking about how you will probably leave her like all the others, and is convincing herself that she shouldn't even bother with you. Her natural inclination will be to put you into the "friends" category right away, just to keep her life calm. And if you act like a friend, that is exactly what will happen.

When you show romantic interest right away, however, you are throwing a monkey wrench into her "friends" plan. You are not going quietly into that dark night of "just friends." No, you are putting yourself in the "potential lover" category by doing the things a potential lover would do. When you do those things, it is easier for her to go with the flow, and--provisionally, at least--to think of you as a potential lover. After all, you are acting like a potential lover, aren't you? It's easier just to think of you as one.

When you do these flirting moves, you are not only trying to stay out of the "friends" zone. You are also testing her, to get a sense of how open she is to being seduced.

For instance, does she blush when you wink at her, or look angry? Does she smile when you check out her body, or does she reach for her rape whistle? Does she glow when you compliment her beauty, or does she give you a stern lecture about he patriarchal nature of the way men treat women and the disgustingly phallocentric practice of modern dating? By testing her with the flirting moves, you can find out her level of interest or disinterest without doing much work or taking much risk.

We've been over these moves before--the difference now is that you are thinking about these flirting moves as tests, rather than as initiations. You are finding out, through these tests, how open she is to being seduced.

Here's what to do:

The wink test. You can wink at her from across the room, or wink at her during a conversation. If she says something funny, or someone else does something silly, give her a wink as a way of sharing a little moment for just the two of you, as if the two of you are in on some private joke no one else is aware of. If she relaxes and laughs, she's interested in more. If she gets cold or more remote, she's not.

The body-check test. The goal of this test is for her to see that you notice her body, without leaving her feeling objectified like some piece of meat. You do this by making eye contact, then quickly, in less than a second, passing your eyes down and then up over her body, then back to looking her in the eyes. This should happen quickly, and you should be unashamed of taking the glance. If she seems relaxed or happy when you meet her eyes again, she's interested in more. If she gets cold or more remote, she is not.

The eye-contact test. While you are conversing with her, you want to be sure to have eye contact at least some of the time. At least once, hold the eye contact a little "too long"--just a fraction too long, so there's a brief, more intimate moment between you. If she holds your eye, she's interested in more. If she looks away or seems upset by it, she's not.

The compliment test. In this test you give her a compliment, and see how she takes it. The only trap here is that the compliment must be one a potential lover would make, not one a tepid friend would. Here's the difference: A man who is destined to be a woman's friend compliments her by saying something like, "You have a very nice briefcase." The compliment doesn't show that he is interested in her romantically. It doesn't test her, because it hasn't give her anything romantic to react to. A real compliment is something like, "Wow, you have beautiful eyes," or, "I have to tell you, you have really great style. You just light up the room." If she smiles at your compliment, and thanks you warmly, she's interested in more. If she seems uncomfortable, she's not.

Any flirting move can be made into a testing move. The key is that romantic-interest testing moves must 1) make it clear in some small way that you are romantically interested while 2) not be so risky that you are either scary or putting your ego on the line.

With a little practice these moves (and more like them) will become second-nature to you, and you won't even have to think about them--you will automatically do them every time you meet a woman you are attracted to. Her responses will tell you if she is interested or not, and you can assess whether or not you should initiate more aggressively, and take bigger risks, from that knowledge.

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Body Language Secrets Alpha Males Use

An estimated 67% to 93% of human communication (according to university researchers) is non-verbal, and your body language reveals your internal emotional state. Whether someone's parents just died, or whether they just got promoted to CEO... you can tell by observing their body language.

So, as a man who tries to pick up and seduce women, you should be mindful of what you're communicating non-verbally.

Body language consists of the following:

- Your movements. They should be nonchalant, as if you're so fabulously successful that there's rarely a reason for you to rush nor try to impress anybody. Move through the world doing what you want and assuming that others will follow.

- The displacement of your body. Your arms and legs should be spread out. Don't be afraid to take up space.

- Your voice. It should have a calm, soothing, and commanding effect. Don't speak too fast or strain your voice.

- Your face. Keep your facial muscles relaxed. Never tense your jaw, and only rarely should you frown or wrinkle your brow.

- Your shoulders. Keep them relaxed like they'd be if you just got a massage. Don't raise them up like a nervous person.

I would even go as far as to say that you body language is more important than anything you say, because if your body language doesn't match what you say, then you won't succeed with women.

You see, if you tell a woman stories that convey your confidence, but at the same time you slump over and fold your arms, then you come across as fake.

I've picked up women before merely through the use of my body language. For example, a couple months ago I was at a coffee shop that I frequent, lounging on the couch, arms spread out, with my feet up on the table.

The mindset I had was that I felt so comfortable that it was as if I were in my home lounging on my own couch. It was as if I owned the coffee shop.

The net result was that a girl sitting near me put down her book and started engaging me in random small talk.

(Whenever an attractive girl you don't know starts a random conversation with you, you should ALWAYS assume that she's attracted to you. This is because women generally won't risk the whole male-female dynamic, especially with a stranger, unless they feel attraction.)

The conversation went on for awhile, I got her number, called her that night, and a few days later we met and after several hours went to her place, where I spent the night. (We finally had sex in the morning.)

The bottom line though is that she became initially attracted to me and approached me because of my body language.

Now, of course body language isn't enough. You also must have an internal alpha male mindset that's consistent with your body language.

But make no mistake about it... if your body language conveys confidence, then your mood will also shift to become more confident. And have you ever noticed how when you walk with a spring in your step, you feel more upbeat?

Conversely, when you cast your eyes down and drag your feet, you feel depressed. So your mindset also follows the body language that you adopt.

So, in conclusion, be an alpha male with your mindset and your body language. Be in a woman's personal space and be sexual and interested in her, but at the same time don't be needy or desperate for her attention. Just be comfortable and enjoy yourself.

And when your body language conveys that, it means you'll later be comfortable and enjoying yourself... with the woman.

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Mistakes Men Use When Using Their Hands In Body Language

Unfortunately, what you do with your hands can be one of the quickest non-verbal ways to destroy the attraction that a woman feels for you, because the wrong hand movements can communicate that you are a low-status, beta male.

To make matters worse, your hands can be particularly tough to manage because, let's face it, when you feel nervous, the hardest thing in the world is figuring out what to do with your hands!

For success with your dating and seduction of women, make sure you don't make the following body language mistakes with your hands.

MISTAKE ONE. Displaying your anxiety with your hands.

You do this when you:

1) Shred napkins.
2) Make your hands into fists.
3) Sit on your hands.
4) Hold something and play with it.
5) Twiddle your fingers or thumbs.
6) Hold your hands unnaturally still.
7) Sit on your hands to avoid having the woman see them tremble.

Although you might be feeling nervous, the last thing you want to do is to let the woman detect you feel that way.

Instead you want to convey that you're calm and in control. Nothing attracts a woman more than a man who's laid back and confident.

MISTAKE TWO. Putting your fingers into your mouth.

When you bite your nails or otherwise chew on your fingers, you are, according to psychologists, doing the same thing that infants are doing when they suck their mother's breast.

For a baby, breast feeding provides comfort. When we became toddlers, our thumbs replaced our mom's nipple.

And then as adults, biting our thumbnail does the same thing. Ever noticed that when you're out in public, you mainly bite your nails when you're under pressure?

THE SOLUTION. Just hold your hands relaxed on the table.

Rest your forearms on the table, keeping your arms open and letting them drop forward.

Keep your hands and arms open and relaxed. Most of the time this means having them about 18 inches or half a meter apart, your palms facing each other, with fingers curved slightly upward.

As your palms face each other, they should also face the woman. Open palms convey honesty and being completely comfortable with yourself. Having the back of your hands facing her can often convey that you're hiding something.

Demonstrating your confidence can be as easy as that! Stop twiddling your thumbs and watch the women flock to you.

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The Body Language Secret Alpha Males Always Abide By

Watch a man with high status--Brad Pitt, George Clooney, or the CEO where you work--and you'll notice that he moves differently than the rest of us. He gives off vibes that he is hot stuff, and because of that, women get soaking wet over him.

You, too, can create that aura that makes you attractive to women.

Have you ever noticed the way your friends look when they're all nervous? They're looking down at the ground with their arms crossed, fidgeting, with their voices cracking and their eyes bugged out.

And when you give off that kind of body language yourself, women don't want to be around you.

Now, think about successful guys. They've got girls all over them and some great body language going on.

So, what's the number one secret between those high status guys and the low status guys? You've probably guessed it... the alpha males are relaxed and in control when it comes to social situations.

Make no mistake about it... relaxation is the most important mental state for you to be in.

With that in mind, here are some pointers for you to develop the mindset and body language of an alpha male (and by the way, if you think they're easy, you're right... you can make these changes as early as tonight and have even the hottest girls clamoring for your attention):

1. Don't allow yourself to feel worried. Just let your worries go, since you can't solve any problem by worrying. So suck it up, and quit thinking about what might go wrong. Just live life.

Now, I know what I just said is easier said than done (to use an old--but relevant in this case--cliche). You've spent your whole life up until now dwelling on thoughts that make you feel worried.

But what is this emotion we call "worry"? When you think about it, it's simply the fear of what might happen in the future. Essentially you're punishing yourself by feeling upset before anything bad has happened. It makes no logical sense to worry!

So the solution is to avoid contemplating your worrisome thoughts anymore. Identify them for what they are... toxic to your emotional state, and... let them go.

Simply not dwelling on negative outcomes that make you feel upset will reduce 90% of your worries.

2. A second strategy to relax is to breathe through your abdomen rather than your chest.

When you breathe, imagine that you're bringing air down to your stomach. Feel your belly rise and fall as you breathe.

3. Avoid nonverbal behaviors that are the opposite of relaxation:

- Raising your shoulders.
- Wrinkling your forehead.
- Fidgeting with your hands and/or legs.
- Tightening your facial muscles.

4. Relax all your muscles and slow down all of your movements a notch.

Alpha males generally move unhurriedly, as if they are in control of time itself. Beta males are nervous and make jerky movements. Imagine you are standing and walking through a swimming pool, where your movements are slow and fluid.

5. Relax your eyes and eyelids.

Beta males hold their eyelids wide open because they are so nervous. Their eyes dart all around. Instead let your eyelids rest. Look straight ahead. Only give things your attention if they interest you. While you're out and about, do the affirmation to yourself, "I am sexual, I am relaxed, and I am in control."

6. If someone wants your attention, move your head slowly.

A trait common to many beta males is being so eager to please that when someone calls their name, you see them spin their heads toward the person unnaturally fast.

John Alexander is author of "How to Become an Alpha Male", a seduction success system for men that will have you displaying body language that attracts women like a magnet.