Flirting Tips For Guys
These flirting tips for guys will give any man ideas on sending the right vibes to the ladies they are interested in. I also have to say that what I repeat over and over on this site about tailoring tips to your personality applies with flirting tips for men as well. What works for one guy may not work for another. This is not because the tip shoot or miss, but because we're all different. Probably one of the "eureka's" you'll ever experience is when you discover yourself. Everything afterwards is easy and effortless. A tree doesn't start growing healthy leaves until it has secure roots and a solid trunk. Think of the following advice on how to flirt with girls as the leaves. They cannot work on their own.
To me, flirting is the most fun a single guy could have. It's innocent, portrays confidence, and tests the water better than any other seduction technique. Why? Because if done properly, and with class, you can flirt with every woman who crosses your path in a day. Flirt with all of them. Even the ones you aren't interested in. In fact, ESPECIALLY the ones you're not interested in. It will develop your skills and chip away at the thought in the back of your mind that you'll get rejected, even though I don't know of a way a girl could reject you if you're just flirting.
Jesse
Want to know one of my favorite flirting tips for guys to create sexual tension?
It's the 'text messaging' function on my cell phone.
Now unless you've lived in a cave for the last couple of years, you're probably familiar with text messages. These are the short, "email like" messages you can send to people with your cell phone.
They're widely used because they're incredibly useful for asking a quick question or sending a brief message.
What's interesting is women LOVE text messaging! If you've ever watched a girl in a social setting, you'll notice how much many text messages she sends. In fact, I think this form of technology is rapidly replacing phone conversations.
So when you text message a girl the RIGHT way, you can quickly build enough attraction that you won't have to do much IN-PERSON game when you see her next.
BUT there's one major problem here...
Most guys complete screw-up what they write on their text messages. They text the way we men typically have conversations. When talking to one another, we like to think logically and make plans. This means their texts are usually straight to the point.
Women on the other hand, view text messaging as a way to get to know one another. They use it to describe their problems and stay in touch with people in their lives.
It's important to remember this rule when texting!
The best way to use text messaging is to build SEXUAL TENSION. Before each text, I think carefully about how this message will advance the flirting and sexual tension I've created with this particular girl.
Whether I'm teasing her, sending "comfort" messages or making plans, my texts are specifically designed to create a STRONG emotion in the girl who receives them!
And from the results I've seen in my dating life, I can honestly say there is a lot benefits you can gain behind sending a well-written text message. With that being said, I'm actually really surprised at the LACK of information about sending text messages to women.
While I KNOW many guys use them, not much has been written on the subject! So for the last 5 months, I've had to create my own system for text messaging.
So let's cover the basics of text messaging. Over the last five months, I've received a number of emails from guys who are interested in improving their "text game". Primarily I get TWO main questions:
1) What's the purpose behind text messaging?
2) Can you give ACTUAL examples of messages you've sent?
With these two questions in mind, I want to dive in and further discuss this topic:
#1- What is the purpose for text messaging?
Bottom line- Text messaging is all about creating and maintaining sexual tension!
When you first get a number, it's easy to have attraction. But this is quickly lost in the time between getting her digits and making that first phone call. With texting, you can bridge the 'time-gap' and keep the attraction alive.
While I recommend that texting should NEVER replace a phone call, sending a few can be an excellent way to get a woman to THINK ABOUT YOU throughout her day. Remember what I say about linking positive stories, feelings, etc. to yourself? This applies here as well and can be one of the most effective flirting tips for men.
Then when you go to call her, she'll immediately recognize the good feelings and emotions that you've already given her. This makes it easy to get her on the phone and set up a 2nd meeting (ie: First Date).
I personally use my text messages to STAND OUT from the other guys who might be calling this girl.
So I focus on TWO things when I text a girl:
1) Teasing her in a familiar manner to create the sense that I already "know" her
2) Using call back humor to an event/conversation that happened when I met her
Generally I'll start a texting conversation by referencing a specific thing that happened in our first conversation. (This is how to use the call-back humor that I just mentioned)
For instance, a few weeks back I met an attractive girl from Eastern Europe. As soon as she opened her mouth, I realized that she sounded EXACTLY like the guy from the Borat movie.
And once I confirmed that she saw the movie and "got the joke", I teased her mercilessly about sounding like Borat. Naturally the first message started with a reference to Borat.
This leads to the next question that I want to cover (This is where I provide the 12 proven messages that I promised at the start of this article)
#2- Can you give ACTUAL examples of messages you've sent?
As I mentioned before, I typically use 'call-back humor' with my texts. This makes it hard to give "cookie-cutter" examples. However, there are times when I didn't get an opportunity to use call-back humor.
So even if I really didn't get a chance to know a girl better, I'll still use a few messages that have gotten great results in the past.
Anyway, here are 12 messages I've personally used:
==> After meeting a girl- (Use 2-3 hours after the first meeting to establish initial contact)
1) "I know you're thinking about me. So I thought I would say hi!"
2) "My ears are tingling...stop talking about me!"
3) "Wow...that's weird. I think I just saw your twin. Are you stalking me?"
==> Lifestyle updates- (Use to keep contact ever other day & demonstrate that you're a fun/interesting person )
4) "Dude...my cat just did the craziest thing..."
5) "I just saw an army of Oompa Loompas. I think short people are breeding too fast
6) "85 degrees out. Time to grab a towel and head to the beach. Too bad you have to work!!!"
==> Building Sexual Tension- (Use after you've spoken on the phone and set up a 2nd meeting)
7) "Miss me yet?"
8) "Tomorrow should be awesome. Just try not to embarrass me in front of my friends"
9) "Looking forward to seeing you. You're like the bratty little sister I've always wanted.
==> After the 2nd meeting- (Use to reinforce the good time she had)
10) "Had an AWESOME time. Hugs and kisses!"
11) "Fun times! I guess it's safe to introduce you to my friends!"
12) "Had a great time! Even if you're a little dorky..."
Sexual tension can be quickly gained and quickly LOST.
That's why it's important to keep up the attraction at ALL points in the relationships you have with women. In other words, NEVER allow the lines of communication to go slack.
That's why I personally recommend that you use the text tips that I provided in this article and stay in contact with ALL the women you're dating (or hope to date).
By and large, guys are pretty bad when it comes to flirting. It's time you learn a few of the basics, so that you can get an edge over the competition. These flirting tips for guys will have you headed in the right direction in no time.
Physical & Verbal cues
1) Posture and Positioning
Your posture communicates everything. You need to arch your back and stick out your chest. Take up space. If you're talking to a girl, stand no more than two feet away. Don't necessarily encroach her space, but stand just a little closer than you might ordinarily.
Maintain an open body position at all times. Never cross your arms or put your hands in your pockets. If you want to test her to see if she's into you, step back a foot and see if she follows. If she does come closer, it's a good sign.
2) Eyes
The eyes can be your most effective tool to flirt with girls. Use your eyes to give off powerful stares of desire. It's possible to make a girl's heart skip a beat by giving her a playful, lusty, or lingering stare. If you're walking by a girl you've got the hots for, give her a 2-3 second stare and then slowly glance away (slow is important). Smile just as you start to look away. She'll get the message.
3) Touch
It's OK to lightly touch her shoulder or arm when you're talking to her. But be careful. Guys have to walk a fine line when it comes to touch. Don't go overboard or you'll freak the girl out.
4) Be aggressive
Women love guys who aren't scared to go after what they want. When you show no fear in your pursuit, you come across looking like a confident man. Don't be scared to compliment a girl...tell her what you think. If she's looking extra nice, go ahead and tell her. Not only will it make her day...she'll immediately realize that you want her.
5) What you should say
To be completely honest, if you're sending out all the right body language, it doesn't matter what you say. Keep the conversation light, nothing serious or in-depth. Bear in mind, though, that it's always best to focus on charming her and being complimentary about her looks. You can also be flattering by telling her how well she did on an oral report or test, a good game, etc. You can even tease her playfully. Just be sure to send out all the other body signals while you're talking.
Mental cues
1) Exude confidence and self-assuredness
It's crucial that you present yourself as a person who feels in control of the situation and isn't nervous. Put on a show of confidence...girls love guys who are secure. Remember, a confident and secure person is a major turn on. This is why girls are always falling for cocky jerks. Exhibiting insecurity and fear is something you should avoid at all costs. This means no...stammering, fidgeting, wandering eyes (off into the distance), wavering voice, etc.
2) Radiate happiness, enthusiasm, & excitement
You've got to be full of energy and in a positive mind frame to be an effective flirt. If you're kicking out good vibes, your target will pick up on it and rise to your level.
Todd Peterson is the editor of the popular teen community HighWorld.com
by Chris Williamson
Following these flirting tips for guys will help you gain the trust of and build rapport between you and a girl. You need this trust in order to take your relationship to the next level.
Tip #1: Actions Speak Louder than Words
When you are with a lot of people, you are going to have to adapt your strategy on how to flirt with women. Depending on the situation, there are always different levels of flirting that are acceptable.
If you are alone at her house (or yours), you will be able to lay it on thick and give your flirting a bit of a sexual twist to it. Before you do this, it is important to learn how to get to this point.
Tip #2: Make Sure that She is Comfortable
If you want to try to build up a little trust in the beginning of the relationship, make sure to touch her. A simple touch on the arm or shoulder can do a lot. Plus, if you don't touch her early on in the relationship, it becomes a lot harder to do later.
If you don't touch her regular body parts early on in the relationship, how can you expect her to trust you when you start to get closer down the road? She needs your contact early on.
The next time you are out, look at a couple and notice how close they stand to each other. If they are standing close, it is usually because the woman trusts the man. Women don't really like men they don't trust to enter into their personal space.
Tip #3: Physical Contact is Key
Make sure that she is going to be comfortable enough to come over to your house for a date. If you follow these flirting tips for men, you can be sure to win her trust.
During the first encounter: Don't touch.
When you meet her at the beginning of your first date: You can either do nothing, or you can be brave and take her hand and give her a small kiss on the cheek.
During the date: Take her hands and touch her arms to give her a bit of physical contact.
When you drop her off at the end of the lake: Make sure to take the initiative and give her a romantic kiss.
When you pick her up for the second date: Give her a kiss (or a hug).
During the second date: Hold her hand and make sure to keep up the physical contact.
At the end of the second date: Give her a long kiss or a hug.
If you follow these guidelines, you will be able to slowly get her comfortable to physical contact with you, and you won't have these uncomfortable points in your relationship.
Use Your Knowledge
Here are a few examples that will help you put everything that you learned, and keep the mood light. These tips will show off your confidence and keep it fun and flirty.
1.Give Her a Bit of a Push
If you are sitting on a bed or a couch, you can try a different variation of the old yawn and put your arm around her trick. Instead of putting your arm around her, you are going to want to give her a gentle shove off of the couch. Just make sure that you are very careful doing this.
2.Don't Let Her Back On
After you gave her a bit of a push off the couch or bed, don't let her back on. When she asks you to let her back on, make sure to keep any reply light and funny (or even sarcastic)! You can ask her why you should let her back up, or just keep playing the game by not letting her up.
3.Give Her an Innocent Tickle
When you are lying down with her on the bed or couch, you can try to tickle her arms, armpits, and legs and stomach. This will increase your level of intimacy, and make her feel even more comfortable with you. If you can't get her to laugh, you can play it down by saying that you weren't trying to get her to laugh in a playful tone.
4.Hit Her Over the Head
A good way to bring a bit of excitement into your relationship is a one-on-one pillow fight. Make sure that you don't use all of your strength and to keep is very playful. One good way to start a pillow fight is to throw one at her when she is across the rooms. Chances are, she will throw it back, and start one easily.
If you follow these flirting tips for guys, you will make your woman more comfortable with you and increase your level of intimacy.
Chris Williamson
Many men make the mistake of believing that flirting is primarily something that a woman does. After all, the coy shyness women often exhibit in trying to capture the attention of a man as well as his interest is not suitable if it comes from men. While this may be true, not only are women are capable of flirting effectively. Men can learn how to flirt in their own way, leading to the results a man really wants. Whether you are thinking about how to find a casual sexual encounter or how to begin a long term relationship, the first step you have to take is flirting. When done successfully, it will help you get what you want.
Some people have not developed the habit of initiating and holding eye contact which is the key element to flirting tips for guys. The best flirting tips for men will include this as an absolute necessity. There are a number of reasons for being able to create eye contact. Eye contact indicates to a woman that you are interested. The second factor is that holding eye contact shows a degree of aggressiveness which goes considerably past friendly interest.
Being able to smile in a seductive manner will also pique the attention of a woman who is interested in you. In addition to creating sexual overtones to whatever is said in the conversation, it also shows that you are focused solely on her. Whether you are dealing with a modern woman or someone who is shy and insecure, lavishing your sexual attention on her is the quickest and surest way to find out if she is interested in you.
The reaction of the woman to your flirting technique will let you know if she is interested in you. If she does not resist your technique, but responds in turn, this is the first and most important sign that she is interested in what you are offering. You can have a one-night stand, or be well on your way to a relationship. Deciding in advance what you are after is the best way to be satisfied with the results of your conquest.
You can have the shyest wallflower, the most independent career woman, or a gorgeous sex-symbol. When you practice these flirting tips for guys, there are very few women who will be able to resist you. These few seduction tips will give you the results you want.
Michelle Williams is a writer and consultant for
The Modern
Man.