How To Seduce A Woman While Remaining A Gentleman

Men often ask me, "Jesse, I want to learn how to seduce a woman but would like to do so as a gentleman. Is this possible?"

Wicked question! It is refreshing to see men looking for advice on seducing a woman without compromising their morals and their self respect. For a lot of men it is not only difficult to use seduction techniques which more or less "trick" the woman they desire, they flat out refuse to do it.

To this, my friends, I give you a well deserved kudos and can tell you with 100% confidence that yes, it is very possible to seduce a woman without being the bastard some women "believe" they want.

I, myself, was raised by two wonderful human beings. Before I was taught anything it was reinforced that whatever I do in this life will reflect on not only myself, but the two people who raised me. Because I have the upmost respect for my parents, and for myself for that matter, I always considered the consequence of all actions I took.

Living your life as a compassionate, understanding, and tolerable human being should be the number one goal anyone should thrive toward. It strengthens your self worth and confidence, and gives you a genuine feeling of success when you live an honest life and respect all people that you come across. I truly believe that this desire of being a good person is ingrained in all of us and when you can achieve something without deception, the reward is a fulfillment far greater than the actual result you were looking for.

I take considerable pride in this website and have always reminded myself of what I wanted it to be. Every time I write an article I take into consideration the goals of those who seek advice and also the feelings of those they are looking to seduce. Convincing men and women to change the way they think without compromising their values and beliefs is important to me and the last thing I want on my conscious is the belief that what I suggest could be used as a weapon instead of a tool.

The one belief that I had to completely tear down was my idea that women were the cause of man's downfalls. At the same time I had a contradictory belief that in order to be successful with women I would have to become someone that I was not. I struggled with this for a long time and I am so happy to have conquered all of my fears and false beliefs while continuing to be a good man. It is the reason why I am in a beautiful relationship today with the woman of my dreams.

When trying to express my ideas and techniques on this website I always remind people that they must first understand why they are looking for tips on how to seduce a woman in the first place. Is it because you enjoy seduction or is it a personal desire to experience the love and affection of someone you are interested in?

We are constantly struggling with achieving what we believe will makes us happy, yet so very few really succeed. Just look at the examples in the world, and there are many, where someone seems to have everything yet are completely miserable. They have been successful on one hand in getting to their goal yet on the other hand they have fallen short in being the happy person they thought they would be when getting there.

I understand that when someone goes to a site in search of quick, easy, step by step seduction techniques to help them attract the woman or man they desire they don't want to read about how they must self evaluate themselves! After all, getting laid and having a hot partner by their side is what they want! Our constant need for a quick fix is one that has spawned numerous self help programs and in effect has produced a bunch of machines who only act without even considering if it will make them happy. After all, these "expert" say it's so, why should I believe it?

Society has attached some pretty ridiculous stigmas to being a nice guy or a gentleman. Global beliefs like "nice guys finish last" have given men the false notion that being good in any way will get you nowhere. I am here today to totally reject this belief and disregard it as "bullocks".

If I had been unfortunate enough to believe these theories that women wanted bastards, I would be single to this day. There is nothing anyone could say or do that would have sent me on the path of being a prick - even if it were true! I would rather be single and without the love of a woman than to go about my life getting what I wanted by compromising my core belief of "doing unto others as you would want others do unto you."

Learning how to seduce a woman goes far beyond seduction techniques. I have always maintained that in order to even attempt getting into a relationship with someone else you owe it to yourself to first understand why you want it. It is not only fair to the person you will be sharing your time with but to yourself! Thinking otherwise is not only selfish but a danger to those you enter a relationship with.

I wanted to learn how to seduce a woman so desperately that I read thousands and thousands of pages from different experts on "pick up". The more I read, the more I realized they knew nothing. If they did know anything they would not have dedicated just a chapter on confidence, for I believe confidence in yourself, true confidence, makes attraction effortless.

All of this said, even after knowing what you want, you may still need some tips and advice. Suppose you are a gentleman or a nice guy, but are afraid to demonstrate your kindness in fear that you will be viewed as a "push over". Hmmm. I don't know about you, but I'm a gentleman and have been quite successful in being "cocky and funny." Is there a rule out there than discourages a nice guy from being funny? I don't think so.

When you open the door for your date, as an example, and she says "thank you," what is a gentleman's common response? It is "you're welcome." Not that there is anything wrong with this, but it also doesn't mean you cannot add onto it. I have always been a big fan of chivalry, but have never limited myself to being boring about it. In this case where you are thanked for opening the door, don't be boring about it. Respond with something like "you're welcome, but but don't expect this when it's raining." Do this with a smile and without the "bad boy" attitude and you are no longer just a nice guy - you're a nice guy with balls.

Abolish all belief you have that you must disregard your gentlemanly tendencies in order to impress a woman right now! I have no idea how this "science" in transforming men into heartless bastards is still being taught. Just look around you and you will see the gentleman is dying out, and dying out fast!

If you want to seduce a woman, great. Just understand that all tips on how to seduce a woman are a compliment to the man you are and not a substitution. Am I saying these tips would be impossible without compromising who you are? Absolutely not! These seduction tips work well just on their own. But is this what you really want? Because in the end, whether you would like to believe it or not, who you are and what you stand for will be exposed and you will look like a total idiot and all your efforts will be taken as a complete sham.

Just a little heads up to all the gentlemen out there and to those who believe they will succeed in misrepresenting themselves.

Jesse