How To Talk To Girls

People ask me how to talk to girls almost every day.  For some odd reason the majority of them think that saying the right things or saying these things with a particular tone will be all they need when searching for ways on how to get a girl they desire.  While what you say and how you say it is very important, talking to women effectively is merely a stone on the foundation.  A foundation that must be strong and secure before attempting to build upon it any further.

Girls' hearts are not hidden behind a door, protected by a gate keeper looking for the magic words "open sesame."  There is no special formula needed to talk to girls.  If this were true, people could build robots to talk to girls and say the right things in the right tone.  Do you think a robot talking to girls in a particular way would seduce them?  Of course not, because talking to girls requires more than words and tones.

I understand that the guys searching for ways how to talk to girls is are only looking for "things to talk about," which is far easier to answer than "how to talk to girls."  It is easier to answer because there is a simple solution to their problem in talking to women. 

When people email me asking how to talk to girls, do you think these guys have a problem talking to their mom, sister, or other female relatives?  I don't think so.  They want to learn how to talk to girls they desire!  This is where they get flustered and lose all control, submitting to their beliefs that the need to impress these girls with secret conversation seduction techniques is the only way.

What I wish guys (and girls for that matter) could understand is that what you talk about with girls doesn't really matter when the conversation is filled with passion on your side.  How could anyone talk to women with passion if what they are talking about was suggested to them by a dating site?  You'll go through the conversation worrying how to continue the conversation and looking even more pathetic when you have nothing else to say than if you walked up to a girl and began stuttering and drooling.

Talking to girls doesn't even have to involve things that they like.  For example:  I was at a karaoke bar once and to my delight someone sang an Elvis song.  While enjoying the performance a group of girls standing next to my booth started disrespecting my idol saying things like "cheese" and "lame."  I couldn't let it go.

When the song ended, I approached the group of girls who were hating on the king and asked "Are your opinions on the king your own or are they a product of how he is portrayed on The Simpsons, South Park, and Family Guy?"  They were stunned.  "Who is this guy?" they must have thought.

After listening to their poor excuses for not liking Elvis I left them with this comment "If Elvis walked up to right now, even fat Elvis, and asked you to dance, you'd gladly do so and then go home with him afterward where he would show you why they called him "the king."  Then I left, went to the washroom for them to take in what just happened.

When I returned from the washroom and sat back at the booth I had been sitting in, one of the girls came over and asked if I could sing Elvis.  I did, and the rest of the night a group of four beautiful young ladies gave us company.  Not only did they give us company, they were unbelievably interested in hearing more about Elvis!  Luckily for me, I love and know everything about Elvis so not only did I convey my message about him with passion, I looked incredibly intelligent.

The point is, you shouldn't worry about what to talk about when talking to girls and begin thinking of ways of intriguing them with topics that interest you.  I use this not only when talking to girls, but also when I'm with a group of friends.  I don't want to talk about things I'm not interested in, so I'll find an opportunity to change the subject matter without interrupting and seeming rude. This is natural to me.  I just can't talk about things that I find boring or topics that I am unfamiliar with or not interested in learning more about.

Listen guys, I could easily sit her and advise you all to talk to girls about Gray's Anatomy, America's Next Top Model, shoes, shopping, etc., but unless you are fully familiar with these topics you will crash and embarrass yourself when you run out of things to say about them.  I'm here to tell you that what you're used to talking about on a day to day basis with your friends, family, co-workers, etc..., is what you should talk about.  Don't worry about it anymore.  If anything, learn how to carry out a conversation in general, and the rest will fall into place.

Jesse Allen