Seduce A Friend With Advice From These Experts
From Friend To Boyfriend
One of the most frequent questions I am asked is "How do I go from being a friend to being a boyfriend?".
I'm not going to lie to you and tell you that this is easy to do, but it can be done. The best way to avoid getting into a situation like this in the future is to show a romantic interest in each attractive woman you meet immediately, that way you will never end up in the "friends category".
However, many of you may already be classified as a "friend" to a woman that you are interested in starting a relationship with. If that is the case, this is what you need to do:
You must let her know how you feel right now! The longer you linger in the "friends category" the less your chance of success will be. Do not worry about what she will say, that does not matter because if she rejects you the friendship will end... which is a GOOD thing.
It is not good for your ego & self confidence to hang around a girl that you want to be with when the feelings are not mutual, the longer this goes on the more your confidence levels will drop... and can ultimately effect your game with other women, dramatically.
With that in mind you should now know what needs to be done. You need to decide if you are going to step up to the plate and put it all on the line (I told you it was not easy). If you do, she will look at you in a whole new way because you had the balls to ask her out, since she probably already has the impression that you are scared to express your feelings for her (she knows that you like her... you may not think so, but trust me... she does).
When you tell her how you feel you must do it in a smooth and confident manner... in such a way that will surprise and impress her. Here are a few examples that you can use and change to fit your needs:
"(her name), I think that it is obvious that I am interested in you as more than a friend... I like you a lot and I think, or at least hope that the feeling is mutual. What do you say we start slow and see what happens, sound good?"
"(her name), we have been friends for a while now, and when I picture the ideal girlfriend in my head all I think of is you... we are so close I don't see any reason why we should not step our relationship up to the next level... what do you say we give it a try?"
Now the example below is the most effective... but only works if her friends (that are girls) think you are a decent guy :
"(her name), I think you are a good friend and all, but I don't want to be your friend... I want to be your boyfriend. I like you a lot and I think, or at least hope that the feeling is mutual. I think we should start off slow and see what happens... but I don't want you to answer right now, give it some thought first..."
If she attempts to answer you right away cover her mouth and shake your head while saying "I told you, do not answer right now... even if you are going to say yes, think about it for a while".
You want to do this because the next thing every woman would do after being propositioned in such a way is call her closest friends to tell them what has just happened to her. Even if you are only slightly "in" with her friends, they will respond by saying things like "He's so sweet" or "That's so romantic", and they will definitely give her the thumbs-up on this one.
Women are GREATLY influenced by their friend's opinions, and if she gets a green light from them... she will definitely hit the gas.
This article was written by The Player, author of the ground breaking seduction guide The Player's Black Book.
Good luck!
The Player
http://www.playersblackbook.com
Seduce A Friend: Getting Out Of The Friend Zone
Ending up in the friend zone plain sucks. Seriously! If you don't know what the friend zone is, then you are about to find out. The friend zone is a hypothetic group that girls place you in. That is right, girls sort you out without you even knowing about it. What are the benefits of the friend zone? Unless you enjoy comforting a girl while she cries to you about her recent guy problems, getting absolutely no sexual play from her, and being her "emotional tampon"… none. Nothing good comes from it, and this zone is not a fun one to be in.
Entire books could be written on how to seduce a friend, but right here right now you are getting your little crash course. So lets start with signs you are in the friend zone.
-You listen to her complain about other guys
"Just a quick comment. I really want to stress this point that Nate has made here. Listening to a female complain about other guys is the one thing you must absolutely avoid always! As soon as you meet a woman you have to make a mental not NOT TO LISTEN to that garbage. You're not a girlfriend and you're certainly not Dr. Phil.
If a woman ever mentioned her man problems to me I would be blunt and either tell them that I'm not a psychiatrist and wouldn't able to offer good advice, or express my disinterest in numerous other imaginative ways. You'll have to be creative because you don't want to come off as cold-hearted, but I trust you'll think of something.
I, too, have been very successful to seduce a friend. In fact, many friends. This is mainly due to initial belief that any woman I meet may potentially be the apple of my eye. Sure, there have been some girls I never imagined being with when first meeting them, but as you all know, things change.
You cannot help who you fall for so staying out of the friend zone is important from the beginning. You will never seduce a friend if you hear about all her problems because that is history. And if you are like me, I don't want to know the history of any girl I'm with. God help me if I had to live through that history and have it on my mind for the rest of my life while being with them!"
-You don't do anything sexual/physical with her
-She calls you a "friend"
-You seem to always be calling her, not the other way around
-You call more than twice a week just to talk
-You find her panties in your best friend's room
You get the idea. When she is treating you like one of the girls, or even worse, as her special friend that she cries to all of the time, you ARE in the friend zone, whether you like it or not.
The first step is to quit being such a a supplicating guy. You've read the site (overnightplayer.com), you've read the articles, start applying the stuff. I don't care how long you have known a girl, you can always start and show her you have changed. Don't even tell her about a change, actions speak louder than words when you are trying to seduce a friend.
Next, make it known that there are other females in your life. Sure, jealousy is far from attraction, but it can trigger it when done right. Don't flat out say that you are banging lots of chicks, just drop a name here and there, make sure she knows that you get out and flirt with other girls, which leads too my next point…
GET OUT AND FLIRT WITH OTHER GIRLS! The one you like probably isn't even that perfect anyway. Find a bunch of other girls and you will soon see that she isn't as amazing as you thought. The hottest girl in one room, is the ugliest in the next, so explore a bit. Make a big list of all of the flaws with the girl you like and realize that she probably isn't worth your time anyway.
Stop giving her attention. No more calling on your part. If she doesn't call you, then forget her, move on and a month later call her up and be a complete player. That is when you catch her. DON'T GIVE IN TO TEMPTATION. Everyone thinks their situation is different, and it is ok to call. They start getting paranoid about what the girl is doing and if she is talking to other guys, so after a day or two they give in and see what's going on with the girl. Please don't be that guy. That guy that keeps on supplicating to her needs and giving her attention even though he knows it isn't going to get him anything.
Finally, the last thing to keep in mind when you are looking to seduce a friend is don't go back to your old ways. Keep up all of your new attitudes until you actually do something with the girl, and even then don't go back to being a wuss. She will try to break you down, and try to make you revert back to your more nice guy personality, but in the end, if you don't go back, you will be passing one of her biggest tests to see how much of a man you are. BE THE MAN.
So in conclusion, the friend zone is a scary place, and the road out of it is bumpy with a load of obstacles. But every single long term girlfriend I've had in my life I got to by first escaping the friend zone and ultimately succeeded in my mission to seduce a friend, so you can do it too. Just follow what I say exactly, and don't think that your situation is different than any other one. BE A PLAYER, not a wuss.
By Nate Eastman
Goodbye Friend, Welcome Lover! How To Seduce A Friend.
Since men found out that “Women are from Venus", many guys have been training themselves to become attractive to women through conversation – pick-up lines, conversation starters, topics to talk about etc. You know all that stuff.
Those deep conversations are all great and everything, but let’s be honest doesn’t it sometimes get sort of frustrating? She wants to hang out with you, she thinks you are a great friend and the two of you have deep conversations but what if you want more? What if you want to date her? Everyone wants to seduce a friend at some point.
How do you transition from being just an ear and a shoulder to someone she is dating or even to a lover? Knowing how to seduce a friend is very important to know because a lot of the time, your friends would make the best lovers!
1. Stop trying to be a “best friend” to seduce a friend – We all want to fall in love with our best friend because it’s so romantic. It's just like in the movies. Unfortunately you can only be either her best friend who wants to be her lover or her lover who wants to be her best friend. I advice you to go for “her lover who wants to be her best friend.”. Make it crystal clear to her that you're interested in her as a 'woman" and not as "just a friend". I say "seduce a friend" but really it should be "seduce a woman" because you don't want to be in that category in the first place!
2. Take some risks if you want to seduce a friend – Pretending that all you are interested in is deep conversations when that is not true is the cowardly thing to do. And don’t think for one moment that we women are stupid to think men love deep conversations. A woman will hang around just enough to see if you are man enough to take some risks and when you don’t – whoosh, you’re filed away into the “friend category”. Stop being too reserved or cautious and take a chance if you want to seduce a friend.
3. Take the role of leader to seduce a friend – Deep conversations and all that means that she is the one in the driver’s seat and driving the relationship and as long as you let her, nothing will change. Women are more attracted to a guy who takes charge and drives the relationship and not the other way round.
4. Set boundaries and have enough self-respect if you want to seduce a friend – Fearing that you will disappoint or upset her somehow if you set boundaries only makes you lose respect in front of women. Women are generally not impressed by men who constantly seek approval from them and act desperate and needy. Keep that reminder that you are there and friendly but you are also an individual with a life to live (I am assuming you have one).
5. Openly flirt if you want to seduce a friend – compliment her, hold eye contact more and longer than usual, laugh more, smile more - do whatever flirting means to you. Just don't go over the top and put her off - less is more!
6. Touch if you want to seduce a friend – I don’t know if I can ever say this enough; touch, touch, touch. Please touch. Touching someone is a very boding thing to do. Find small ways to touch her - invite her to thumb wrestle, ask to read her palm, playfully pat her shoulder, brush an imaginary crumb from her lips then say “just kidding,” give her a foot massage etc. Those small touches can be a very strong link between you two.
7. Pick yourself up, keep trying and you will eventually seduce a friend – Sometimes things are just not meant to be. It’s a fact of life that not everyone you are sexually attracted to will be sexually attracted to you. Don’t dwell on failures, pat yourself on the back for taking a risk and try again. Tomorrow is another day.
Now go start making the transition from "that guy I hang out with" to "lover" :-)
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