If you've ever watched a chick flick, you know that women love guys with a playful and care-free attitude. In these movies the woman always ends up with the guy that makes her feel good about herself instead of the rich bastard that tries to buy her love. In the understanding women chapter of this book we talked about how much influence romance stories have on women, and because of that fact... most women will follow the pattern described above when making their choice of who they want to be with.

Be positive and excited about everything that you do. This type of attitude is contagious to women and they love guys who can make them feel that way. If you can be like that, women will always feel good and be comfortable around you.

Be unpredictable. Try to do things that you would normally NEVER do, then drop those before they become repetitive and move on to a totally different set of actions. Predictable behavior is not appealing to women at all, women are magnetically drawn to men that can keep them guessing and on their feet. If you can do that you'll never need to worry about them becoming bored with you. Try to always go out of your way to be different and unusual in an attractive fashion.

Be funny, or at least attempt to be as comical as you possibly can. If you can lighten the mood and keep a smile on her face she will be much more likely to open up to you. Use your ability to be funny very sparingly, because there is a thin line between funny and corny... and trying too hard will most likely make you seem corny. Try to drop a few well placed jokes here and there, just enough to keep her feeling good about you.

These can be anything from witty little comments that shoot out of your mouth at the speed of light (like Chris Rock or David Spade), to goofy facial expression or body language (Jim Carey, Eddie Murphy). Use your imagination and don't be afraid to let your humorous side show a little, it's inside all of us... I know you've seen yours before.

Be adventurous... ready to do anything at the drop of a hat. Act as if you're not afraid to try anything new, and you are down for ANY challenge. Women respond well to this spontaneous type of attitude, so make sure you master it.

Be charming and romantic, but don't overdue it! You can think of these personality traits as the salt and pepper of your character... just a pinch will spice it up nicely, but too much can ruin the entire meal!

Combine all of these personality traits that I've described and incorporate them into your own as much as possible and you will become a sought after commodity to the women in your area.

This has been an extract taken from the Personality Development chapter of "The Player's Black Book". For a more in-depth view on this subject you can check out the full version of the book by clicking here.

Flirting Techniques

Flatter her - Women love to be complimented. If you make them feel good about themselves they will always feel good about you, and constantly want to be in your presence. Don't overdue this or you may come across as fake... a few genuine, well-placed compliments every-so-often is ideal.

Check her out - Let her catch you looking at her body every once in a while... it'll make her feel sexy and turn her on. Start by making eye contact with her, then slowly scroll your eyes down her body all the way to her feet... making sure to look at her breasts, stomach, and legs on the way down. As soon as you reach her feet begin to make your way back up her body, and when your eyes meet back up with hers give her a small, seductive smile. This let's her know that she meets your approval and that you think her body is hot... it'll make her day, trust me.

Play hard to get - Act as if she is not good enough for you and must "prove" herself worthy of your affection, doing so in a teasing fashion is golden. Women want what they believe they can not have... so if you make them think that they can't have you, that's what they'll want. Easy.

Whisper in her ear - Whispering has an age-old seductive appeal to it, and is one of the oldest player tricks in the book. Whispering is amazingly simple when compared to how potent it is when used on women. Do it as often as possible.

Smile - I shouldn't need to tell you to do this, but unfortunately many men still have not caught on to how important smiling is when it come to flirting with women. Without smiling you can't expect to get very far with almost any girl... so put on your happy face and get down to business.

Winking - You might think that this is old school or corny, but that is that mind state that is going to hold you back from getting the most out of your dating life. You've got to open up and be prepared to try new things that you've been afraid to do in the past... and this is a perfect place to start. Believe me when I tell you this... women LOVE when a guy winks at them. Don't ask my why, I have no idea why it is so appealing to them, all I know is that it WORKS. If I had to guess, I would say that it is because you've got to have balls and a certain amount of charisma to pull off a seductive wink... and those two character traits are big turn-ons for most women.

Laughter - Laughter is contagious, and I've never met a woman that did not like to laugh. Try to laugh at just about anything that you find humorous... and also try to make a few good jokes yourself. There is something truly magical about laughter when it comes to flirting and warming up to women... a few good laughs can open up a whole new playing field for you to put your pimping skills to work on.

This has been an extract taken from the Flirting chapter of "The Player's Black Book". For a more in-depth view on this subject you can check out the full version of the book by visiting.

Listen, Don't Think

How many times can you recall that you were engaged in a good conversation with a woman, but then all of a sudden you could not think of anything to say... and in turn this ushered in the dreaded awkward silence, and both of you immediately felt uncomfortable?

Do you know why this happens?

The reason is simple... it's because you were THINKING instead of LISTENING. Good conversationalists never think about what to say next, they know that by doing so you can easily ruin a good thing. The dialogue in a conversation is not as important as the FLOW, so you must learn to focus your energy on keeping the conversation going rather than on saying the "perfect" thing.

Having a conversation with a woman in some ways is the exact opposite of dancing with a woman. When dancing the man should always lead, but in conversation that is the woman's job... they are the experts remember?

To succeed at holding a smooth flowing conversation with a woman the only thing that you need to do is REALLY listen to what she is saying. Give her your complete attention, forget about what is going on around you and focus on only one thing... her. If you can learn to do that, she will "guide" you through the entire conversation.

It's that easy!

One of the fundamental skills of a good conversationalist is the ability to allow the conversation to flow smoothly from one subject to the next without ever "going backwards" by making a statement about the last subject once you've already moved on to the next. Women are very good at this... so good actually, that they are constantly giving men "hints" as to the direction that they want the conversation to go.

Pick up on these "hints" and your job is done!

Check out these examples :

You - "Hey, did you get a chance to read that book that I told you about?"

Her - "Yeah... but on my way back from the library I got a flat tire."

Did you notice how she no longer wants to talk about the book and is attempting to guide the conversation to the subject of her flat tire?

Here's another :

You - "So do you come to this club often? I haven't seen you before and I always remember a pretty face."

Her - "This is actually my first time here, I just moved here from Chicago to go to college."

This time she gave you two options to choose from : Chicago or school. Did you pick up on both of these right away? If you did, good job... you're getting the hang of this. Follow the woman's lead and you will NEVER be at a loss-for-words again!

This has been an extract taken from the Flirting chapter of "The Player's Black Book". For a more in-depth view on this subject you can check out the full version of the book by visiting.

 

You can be the most confident person in the world, but people will only know it once they talk to you unless you know how to LOOK like you are confident. This is very important to you because looking confident plays just as big of a roll in attracting women as actually being confident does.

Think about it... when a woman first notices you, it is still your job to make her want you even though you haven't said a word to her yet. This can have a very powerful effect on women, because being able to make them attracted to you instantly is hands-down the best way to pick them up.

There are three things that you need to learn how to control if you want to look confident : You posture, your walk, and your eyes. If you can handle all three of these, you will always appear to be extremely confident to women. Below you will find a detailed description of what to do to master these displays :

Your posture : Confident men don't slouch, cross their legs, or place their body weight mostly on one leg while standing. Keep your shoulders back and chest out, legs straight while sitting with your feet flat on the floor, and your body weight equally on both legs while standing without leaning to one side.

Your walk : Be cocky when you walk, and always walk like you know exactly where you are going. Walk like you are so tough that nobody would dare mess with you, almost strut... but don't overdue it or you'll look fake. Your walk is very important... a perfect example of someone with a flawlessly confident walk is Will Smith, watch how he walks in his movies and mimic what he does.

Your eyes : Maintaining eye contact is a sign of confidence, so always look people in their eyes when you are talking to them. NEVER look down at the ground, the only time you should be looking at the floor is when you need to pick something up or tie your shoe... this is a sign of insecurity, so don't do it!

Follow these rules and you are sure to look confident all of the time. You will notice more women looking at you because of the confidence that you will display, and this will make it much easier for you to approach them and get their number or set up a date with them.

This has been an extract taken from the Flirting chapter of "The Player's Black Book". For a more in-depth view on this subject you can check out the full version of the book by visiting.